Women only have a certain amount of tolerance
for their partner making mistakes and doing various things that they find annoying
or unattractive. Sadly, some men don’t get the hints women drop when she wants
those mistakes to be remedied. Instead of relying on those hints, it may be
time to step back and take a look at what you’re doing in your relationship.
In this list, I’ll veer away from
the more obvious mistakes like being abusive or being
An outright jerk. Instead, I’ll be
discussing some seemingly normal things men do that ultimately drive a woman
away.
Mistakes men often make in
relationships
If your relationship isn’t going as
smoothly as you had hoped, it may be because you’re
Committing one of these 7 common relationship
mistakes.
#1 Being a man-baby. She doesn’t
want to be in a relationship with an overgrown child. She
Wants someone who can make
decisions, take the initiative, and be in control. We are seeing more and more
that the modern man is becoming weak, passive, and unassertive. If you are
always trying to please her, always asking what she wants to do, and generally
Placing her atop a pedestal to
worship her, I have news for you. She resents it!
That is what nearly every guy who is
trying to get into her pants does. He kisses butt, and pretends that he is just
trying to be nice to her. Of course, we all know what he wants, and he will
never get it by being her servant. Women do not want an emotionally
unstable
Weakling of a boyfriend. They want
to be with someone whom they respect, are equal with
*not babysitting*, and has a
backbone. It’s important to have your own point of view. It’s okay to sometimes
disagree on certain things, and to have your own interests and desires.
You do not need your girlfriend’s
permission to think. You should be your own man first, and her boyfriend
second. Not the other way around!
#2 Neglecting personal growth. Too
many guys give up on themselves as soon as they get into
a long-term relationship. They stop
trying to be better, stop looking after themselves, and settle
into a life of mediocrity and
comfort because they’ve already found someone who will
accept them for who they are. You’re
not looking after yourself and growing as a person to meet women. You’re doing
it for yourself. You should have enough self-respect
to give a crap about how you present
yourself to the world. A lack of growth, drive, and focus
in a man’s life will soon lead to
unhappiness, and more likely, self-medicating with alcohol
and crappy TV. Self-improvement is
an ongoing personal
Challenge. Don’t let the comfort of
being in a relationship stop you from growing into a better person.
#3 Forgetting your friends. Of
course, you will spend less time with them, and you probably won’t go crawling
the bars trying to pick up women, but it shouldn’t fundamentally change who you
are. Your friends are still your friends, and if you do not have a life outside
of
your relationship, you’re just
keeping yourself caged in with your girlfriend. Your friends were there for you
at the start, and if things go belly up, they will be there for you at the end,
so long as you haven’t pushed them all away! That might seem like an overly pragmatic
view, but it’s the reality. The majority of relationships you get into do not see
through to happily ever after. That’s why it’s important to maintain a social
circle outside of your relationship. Catching the game or having a couple of
beers with friends is a good way to get out of the house and have a male friendship
group. There are certain things that, as a guy, you want to be able to talk to
other guys about, not to mention the general benefits of male bonding and
friendship. Let’s be honest, you don’t like it when your friends change for a
new relationship and abandon their buddies, so don’t do it to them either!
#4 Giving up on your dreams. As
mentioned in point 2, life doesn’t *or at least shouldn’t* end as soon as you
get into a serious relationship. You should be happy inside and outside of your
relationship. Both parties should have meaning to their life that extends
beyond each other. This means chasing your dreams and living your life. No
matter how dedicated you are to your
Partner, you should still have a
goal that extends beyond the confines of your relationship. Enriching your own
life also helps to enrich the relationship you have with your girlfriend, as
it’s a way to share new knowledge and experiences with each other. Just think
about it: Wouldn’t your girlfriend be so much happier to be with a man who
works towards reaching his dream, as opposed to a man who seems to only be
living his life for her?
#5 Obsessing over her. There was
life before your girlfriend, and there is life beyond your girlfriend. I’m sure
she is great and lovely and sweet and all that good stuff. That’s why you’re with
her, right? But no matter how tempting it is to spend all your time with her, you
should take a step back and see if you’re starting to smother her with too much
attention.
Derailing your entire life to cater
to her may seem sweet, but that’s only if you’re characters in a rom-com. Real
women will start to resent it if you’re no longer giving her space. And she’ll
think you’re downright crazy if you drop everything you have going in your life
just for her sake!
#6 Being overly jealous. A little
jealousy from time to time is actually healthy, but being untrusting and
controlling is neither romantic nor desirable. If you always want to read her phone
or follow her around for fear that she’s paying attention to some other guy,
this is indicative of a deep trust issue. Your girlfriend may then start to
wonder what she could have done to merit your obsessive jealousy. Insecurity is
a common culprit in men who are very jealous. When you’re insecure, you feel like
this wonderful woman, whom you love and desire, might just find someone who’s better
than you. You need to realize that she chose you, and unless she’s giving you a
reason to doubt her fidelity, you must not let your insecurity and jealousy get
the better of you.
#7 Getting stuck in a romantic rut .
While you can’t always maintain the same level of
excitement that you had at the start
of your relationship, it’s still important to try to mix things up and do new
things together. If you don’t at least try, you’ll only end up focusing on the
mundane, everyday routines that pass for a “good time” together. Sex can become
monotonous, date nights can feel like a chore, and even your favorite activity
together can lose its edge. In the end, this can make your girlfriend feel like
she’s stuck in a relationship that has lost its spark.
Even though, as a man, you’re not
solely responsible for keeping the excitement alive in your relationship, your
girlfriend may secretly be hoping that you’d suddenly whisk her away on a
surprise road trip or carry her off to a romantic home cooked dinner, complete
with candles and jazz tunes. A little bit of spontaneity will do wonders for
your relationship, so never skip the chance to insert it into your lives!
These 7 mistakes are far from the
only ones that men make in relationships, but they are some of the biggest and
most important. If you don’t start working on remedying these mistakes, you may
soon find yourself alone and single!
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